Perth Escorts – BDSM Glossary

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Members of the BDSM and fetish community sometimes use these terms. Read on to learn a little bit more about the language and the practices of this very interesting world. Terms taken from LeatherandGrace a blog that promotes BDSM awareness. Understand these terms before arranging a session with BDSM Perth Escorts.

AFTERCARE. A time of rest, conversation and discussion after a session or scene of play.

AGE PLAY – Role-play where one partner assumes an adult role (such as a Dad, Mom, teacher) and another a childlike role (teenager, student, etc.). They are sometimes called “bigs” and “littels these roles are generally referred to as “bigs” and “littles” respectively but doesn’t always correlate to dominant and submissive.

ALT-SEX – Abbreviation for alternative sexuality, encompassing BDSM/kink/fetish, polyamory, swing, and other “non-mainstream” forms of erotic interest and expression.

ANIMAL PLAY – Role-play where one partner takes on the identity of an animal and sometimes dresses in costumes. Ith as nothing to do with bestiality or zoophilia, which involves real animals.

BDSM – Acronym combining B&D (bondage and discipline), D/s (dominance and submission) and S/M (sadomasochism). Covers the spectrum of sexual practices that include consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy role-play.

BONDAGE – Practice of using physical restraint and/or confinement to produce or enhance erotic arousal.

BONDAGE & DISCIPLINE (B&D) – Use of bondage and other practices to produce or enhance erotic arousal; the term was originally used to indicate a “lighter” form of S/M, but the two are now considered part of the BDSM continuum.

BOTTOM – Person who receives sensation and/or consents to be restrained during play; sometimes used interchangeably with submissive.

BOTTOMING FROM THE TOP – Practice of assuming a top or dominant role, but at the direction of the bottom or submissive.

BOTTOM-SPACE – Alternate term for sub-space.

CANE – A slender rod used for impact play; traditionally made of rattan, but there are now canes made of various materials.

COLLARING CEREMONY – Ritual whereby a dominant and a submissive commit to a deeper relationship, often assuming the roles of Master/Mistress and slave respectively. Along with the slave receiving a collar as a symbol, the partners may also sign a contract spelling out the specific terms of their relationship.

CONTRACT – An agreement spelling out the terms of a relationship between a dominant and a submissive, especially if they commit to a deeper level of relationship (see collaring ceremony, lifestyle, Master/Mistress, slave).

DOMINANCE & SUBMISSION (D&S, D/s) – Consensual empowerment of one person by another to enhance or produce erotic arousal. Sometimes referred to as “erotic power exchange.”

DOMINANT – A person entrusted with power by a submissive. Also called: (a) “dom”; (b) “maledom” and “femdom” to distinguish gender; (c) “domme,” “domina” or “dominatrix” by some female dominants.

DOMINANT MASOCHIST – A bottom who enjoys directing a top to deliver erotic pain or other intense sensation. See also submissive sadist, topping from the bottom, uppity bottom.

DUNGEON – A room arranged for BDSM play, often with special equipment or furniture, and thematic decoration.

ENDORPHIN HIGH – Alternate name for sub-space or bottom-space, especially when induced by intense stimulation; endorphins are created by the central nervous system in response to such stimuli, especially pain.

EROTIC PAIN – Sensation which may be painful, but is enjoyable in an erotic context.

EROTIC POWER EXCHANGE (EPE) – Alternate term for Dominance & submission.

FETISH – Eroticization of an object, body part, style of clothing, etc.; examples of fetishes can be for feet, underwear, latex, leather, and so forth. “Fetish wear” refers to clothing or fashion indicative of the kink or broader alt-sex community; it can be specific articles of clothing (corsets, stiletto heeled boots or shoes) or styles suited to eroticized roles (biker, schoolgirl, vampire) or clothes made of specific materials (latex, leather, PVC, rubber). Some also use the term “fetish” interchageably with “kink”.

FLAGGING – Wearing a colored or patterned hanky to signify one’s erotic preferences.

FLOGGER – A multi-tailed whip used for erotic impact play; floggers are made of various materials, and are often referred by the types of sensations they produce: “light” versus “heavy”, “stingy” and/or “thuddy”, and so forth.

FURRIES – Subculture of people interested in animal play, often dressing in elaborate animal costumes.

HANKY CODE – System of colored and patterned hankies worn on the back pocket to signify one’s particular interest, including whether one identifies as a top (left pocket) or bottom (right pocket). Derived from the gay leather subculture.

IMPACT PLAY – BDSM play involving impact on a bottom or submissive with any of various implements including floggers, canes, straps, paddles, bare hand or gloved hand.

LIMITS – Set of limitations which a bottom or submissive sets during negotiation. “Hard limits” are those which should never be crossed, but over time a top or dominant may “push limits” to expand the couple’s erotic repertoire within a safe, consensual and nurturing context.

MARKS – Temporary or permanent markings on the skin of a bottom or submissive as a result of consensual play; temporary marks can include bruises, abrasions and cuts; permanent marks can include scarification, tattoos and other body art or body modification.

MASTER/MISTRESS – Both a role and a title frequently assumed by dominants. A submissive may refer to her/his dominant as “my Mistress” or “my Master,” especially when they have entered a deeper committed relationship. The titles are also frequently assumed by dominants who have acquired a certain level of expertise and respect within the BDSM community.

NEGOTIATION – The discussion between prospective play partners as to what forms of play are desired and/or acceptable, so as to assure that the play in question is mutually consensual and enjoyable.

PRODOMME – Shorthand term for a professional dominatrix, a woman who provides BDSM sessions for paid clientele. Prodommes do not provide sex or sexual services for money, and therefore are not technically engaging in prostitution, yet they may still face various legal issues due to the nature of their work. Many prodommes are also respected educators and activists within the BDSM community. There are even a handful of male professional dominants.

SAFE-CALL – Arrangement for assuring a person’s safety when meeting someone for BDSM play; the person arranges to call a “safe-call buddy” at a prearranged time, and if the buddy does not receive the call, she or he then contacts the police or makes other arrangements to protect the person.

SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL (SSC) – Maxim within the BDSM/kink/fetish community, delineating acceptable forms of play. While the expanded meaning of these terms is still discussed and disputed within the Scene, the general consensus is: (a) “Safe” means not causing injury which would require professional intervention to heal; (b) “Sane” means being able to distinguish fantasy from reality; (c) “Consensual” means that all that is being done is understood and agreed to by all who are involved.

SAFEWORDS – Code words or signals by which a partner may call for a scene to end, or otherwise communicate distress. This allows for bottoms and submissives to feign resistance in a scene, or to signal the top or dominant when gagged or otherwise unable to speak.

SCENE – A session of BDSM/kink/fetish erotic play. “The Scene” is also used to refer to the BDSM/kink/fetish community, or a specific subgroup within it (i.e., “the Gorean Scene”).

SENSATION PLAY – Erotic play involving the use of various techniques of sensory stimulation and/or deprivation.

SERVICE TOP – A top who engages in play at the direction of the bottom. See also submissive sadist.

SINGLE-TAIL – The classic snakelike whip, shorter ones being called signal whips and longer ones bullwhips. Within BDSM, they are used more as symbols and noisemakers; using them on bottoms or submissives requires considerable skill and practice.

SQUICK – To make one feel uncomfortable at some level, as in: “That scene really squicked me.”

SUBMISSIVE – A person who entrusts power to a dominant. Also called: (a) “sub”; (b) “malesub” and “femsub” to distinguish gender.

SUBMISSIVE SADIST – A top who enjoys delivering erotic pain or other intense sensation at the direction of the bottom. See also bottoming from the top, dominant masochist, service top.

SUB-SPACE – A euphoric state experienced by some submissives and bottoms during play scenes, caused either by (a) physiological response to intense stimulation, or (b) deeply identifying with their submissive role. Also referred to as bottom-space or endorphin high.

SUSPENSION – Form of bondage where the bottom or submissive is literally suspended off the floor. Suspension is an advanced practice requiring specialized equipment and knowledgeable attention by the top or dominant.

SWITCH – A person who can alternate between top and bottom, and/or dominant and submissive, depending upon various contexts (play partners, types of play, etc.).

TOP – Person who delivers sensation and/or restrains a consenting bottom during play; sometimes used interchangeably with dominant.

TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM – Practice of assuming a bottom or submissive role, but directing the top or dominant. Once seen negatively, but now recognized as a legitimate form of play in some circumstances, such as when a seasoned bottom guides a novice top. See also dominant masochist, service top, submissive sadist, uppity bottom.

TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE (TPE) – Alternate term for lifestyle D/s; also sometimes referred to as 24/7.

TOY – Any piece of equipment used during BDSM play: floggers, bondage equipment, vibrators, etc. Sometimes submissives may playfully refer to themselves as the “toy” of their respective dominant.

UPPITY BOTTOM – A bottom who tends to take charge in BDSM play.

VANILLA – Refers specifically to sex without BDSM elements; more generally can refer to non-BDSM people, places and things. This should not be misinterpreted as derogatory.

WIITWD – Acronym for “What It Is That We Do”; an alternative term for BDSM, most often used online.

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